Nursing Strike!

NURSING STRIKE: when babies refuse to breastfeed and keep saying "no more breastfeeding, no more breastfeeding!"  .... or according to kellymom.com, "when babies abruptly stop nursing." 

I have been reading a lot that babies rarely wean themselves from breastfeeding before they are one year old.  Well, our twins must be that small exception that does stop breastfeeding, unfortunately.  Why does this happen?  Such a tragic event!

Breastfeeding the past 5 months has been such a rewarding and uplifting experience.  Since I pretty much am not able to get either baby to nurse, I can now say that I regret not trying harder to breastfeed more often in the past.  Perhaps it was mostly due to poor latching...which eventually led to frustration and a decrease in nursing sessions until I was feeding them with the bottle 98% of the time.  I feel very sad that the babies never try to breastfeed or anxiously look for the breast when they're hungry (which they used to do all of the time!).  All of a sudden, one day, I tried breastfeeding them and they immediately cried and arched their backs as if it was pure torture.

I have read on other forums that this is called a nursing strike and it commonly occurs around 4-6 months.  This is the time when babies are going through new phases, such as crawling, eating solids, becoming more conscious of everything around them, talking, grabbing things, etc.  Who wants to be forced to stay in one position and eat when they can go explore and try out all of these new things they're experiencing?!  I have also read that it is just a nursing strike and the baby will go back to breastfeeding eventually if you keep trying.

The only time I am successful at breastfeeding is when they have already fallen asleep (almost) while drinking the bottle.  I'll do a quick switch and trick them and sometimes get them to nurse.  I'm successful 10% of the time.

I guess the only thing moms can do when facing this bump in the road is to be proud and thankful for the time they had in the past with breastfeeding.

Something I have also realized is that consuming large amounts of chocolate may lead to a more fussy, crying baby if you feed him/her your breast milk.  This is from personal experience.  So I try to not eat chocolate if I know I'm going to attempt to breastfeed that day.  I have read that your diet can consist of only M&M's and this would NOT affect your breast milk.  Well, I always feel the babies cry more than usual on days when I eat chocolate.

So, hopefully this is just another phase that the twins are going through and that it will pass.  Kellymom.com states that "self-weaning is almost never abrupt."  Let's hope it's true!  I will update this post in the future!!

4 Month Growth Spurt

Ever since the twins were born, everyone (doctors, nurses, friends, etc.) kept warning us of growth spurts.  We considered ourselves lucky; the twins started sleeping through the WHOLE night by two months and never once woke up to be fed until the next morning.  Yes, we suffered more in that first month than we did our entire lives, but it passed... just like everyone told us it would.  

According to kellymom.com, a growth spurt is when babies eat more often than usual and act more fussy than usual.  Thus, milk intake increases, but is temporary (unless baby is BF exclusively).  Not only is it due to a physical growth spurt, but also to their newly developed behaviors such as walking, crawling, or talking.  Milk helps develop not only the brain, but also the body.  

By 3 months, the twins were so much easier to handle since they were having fun practicing to crawl.  But it finally happened: they hit a growth spurt.   

They're eating at least double the amount they usually do!  It's so stressful pumping milk and then having it disappear in a matter of seconds... only to result in crying babies again.  The best solution is to breastfeed so it can tell the body to produce more milk... but it's not always the most favorable option.  

Anyways, Max is waking up sometimes around midnight (which is not a problem since I'm still awake).  I actually enjoy night feedings (even though it only happened twice) because they don't cry.. they just eat quickly and pass out!  So convenient!  

Here are the pictures we HAD to take because he was just so cute and SOOOO sleepy.  Don't let his sleepy precious face deceive you... he pretty much attacked the bottle when I put it by his mouth because he was so hungry :)

I noticed my arm looks HUGE, but it's just because Max's head is so tiny still.  No, really... it is.  When they're this little and precious, it reminds me of how much I wish they could stay like this.  My husband were even talking the other night how we don't want them to grow up.  We would be happy if they would just stay babies forever.  :)

Leo (left), Max (right), dear husband (middle...too obvious)

MASTITIS & THRUSH: My Story

The biggest thing that I was not prepared for when the twins were born was breastfeeding.  I took a breastfeeding class at the hospital, but to be honest, most of it I didn't remember or it just went right over my head.

My hospital believes breastfeeding is the best and only choice for moms (which got me mad a little because some moms NEED to use the bottle!).  From the moment I had Max in my room, they made him breastfeed with a nipple guard and supplemented with formula through a syringe on my nipple.  I did this every 2 hours, even though I had no milk yet.  It was tedious and stressful, but I'm glad I did it because Max was able to adapt to the nipple at home a lot easier than Leo (who was in the NICU and bottle-fed).  

Yet, no one told me that I needed to breastfeed or pump every 2 hours around the clock.  And no one warned me of what would happen if I decided not to empty my breast.

When my milk supply came in, I pumped frequently and stored the excess milk in the freezer.  I thought since I had so much, I would take a break and not pump or breastfeed.  Plus, I was sleep deprived and starting to not feel good (too much milk in my breast was building up).  

BIG MISTAKE!!!

I quickly developed chills in my body and nausea and extreme tiredness. I couldn't even get up and walk around because I thought I'd faint from sleepiness.  Basically it was like the flu hit me, but maybe a couple times worse.  Luckily, my mother-in-law was visiting and took care of the household while I slept all day and all night.  I woke up a few times to pump since I was so engorged (another thing I never knew about), but my breasts became engorged within 5 minutes after pumping.  My breasts hurt and ached so bad, even after pumping.  When I swallowed water, it felt like cold water was running through my breasts and cutting the insides as it ran through my body.  Yet, I had to drink... but it hurt so bad every time I almost cried.  

I dealt with the Mastitis for about 3 days and then went to my doctor who gave me antibiotics.  I then learned from him and the lactation nurse that IF YOU DO NOT EMPTY THE BREAST ON A REGULAR BASIS, YOU WIL DEVELOP PLUGGED MILK DUCTS.  The milk builds up behind the breast and starts to get old and grow bacteria.  Thus, an infection arises!!  

So, I pumped like crazy and swore to myself I would never let this happen again!  Well, the twins got thrush in their mouths from the antibiotics and then gave it to me while breastfeeding.  They cried like crazy and it took forever for them to eat each time.  Plus, my nipples ached all the time and felt raw.  It's a beast to get rid of (thrush), but with Nystatin for the twins, a 3-week treatment of Diflucan , and nipple ointment, I gained some relief. 

The All-Purpose Nipple Ointment did wonders for me!  It's composed of 3 key ingredients:

1. Mupirocin (fights bacteria), 
2. Betamethasone (decreases inflammation), and 
3. Miconazole Powder (antifungal agent).  

If you can, get this script from your doc or lactation nurse.  I can't imagine any mom going through breastfeeding without it!  Use it whenever you feel thrush coming on. 

WARNING:  Thrush is a nasty nasty infection and once you have it, you need to treat it aggressively!!  Yes, the nipple ointment works, but please remember it is just a part of the cure and if not treated correctly, thrush will remain.  Symptoms might fade away for a couple weeks, but it will come back and only get worse.  Trust me, you sure don't want to go through the whole breastfeeding in pain.  Breastfeeding is meant to be a positive and rewarding experience for you and your baby.  If you think you have thrush, see your doctor/lactation nurse.  

If you have sore nipples, try Medela Tender Care Lanolin or Lansinoh Lanolin. I can't stand the consistency and smell of either, but it does help.  You can buy it online or in a pharmacy department.  I recommend Lansinoh Lanolin, just because it doesn't smell.  A lot of moms don't like it since it's thicker and harder to get on (and ends up hurting the nipple more while applying it).  You might want to try both.  Ask for samples from your doctor or lactation nurse.  

Also, if you start to feel fluish (chills, nausea, extreme exhaustion, can't stay awake, breasts hurt), increase your breastfeeding sessions and pumpings, even at nighttime.  It is perfectly safe for baby to breastfeed while you have mastitis or thrush.  It's actually recommended to nurse when you have mastitis or plugged ducts since baby can empty the breast in a much more efficient way than a breastpump could ever do.  Within a day or two, you should feel better.  You should also breastfeed if you and baby have thrush, but just make sure you're both being treated, otherwise you'll end up passing it back and forth!  

The other huge thing to do is DRINK A LOT OF WATER!!!! I read that online, but truly, it helps.  Water helps fight infection in any case.  I also took extra vitamin C on top of my prenatals.  Not sure if that contributed to getting rid of Mastitis, but it didn't hurt.  

With MASTITIS, expect any of these symptoms:

• Breast swelling/tenderness
• Breast feels warm/hot
• Flu-like symptoms
• Exhaustion
• Fever
• Pain/burning feeling while nursing
• Wedge shaped redness and lump in breast

You should immediately drink a lot of water upon having these symptoms and start increasing your nursing and pumping sessions... like crazy.  If you become engorged, your breasts will hurt.  You can usually overcome it through frequent nursing sessions, but if you also have flu-like symptoms, you should see your doctor. 

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With THRUSH, expect any of these symptoms:

• Pink, sore, itching, red, and/or burning nipples
• Blisters on nipples
• Sharp pain in breast while nursing and after
• Baby has white patches in mouth

Make sure your nipples/breasts are dry.  Yeast thrives in moisture environments.  Air dry after nursing and pumping.  Even lay in the sunlight since UV rays kill yeast.  I heard tanning helps a lot too (although I avoid tanning).  Sterilize all pump parts and bottles.  And as always, see your doctor if symptoms get worse and not better!!

Remember, breastfeeding is a precious bonding experience for you and your little one(s).  It is supposed to be a peaceful and happy experience that you should look back on and be proud of.  Don't let Mastitis and Yeast take that away from you!  With this information, I hope you can not just get through it easier, but also prevent it from happening in the future!  

Good luck and happy feeding!

Leo & Max passed out after breastfeeding.  If only every feeding went this smoothly...  :)

Feeding Twin Boys

Whenever I look online for how to feed twins, I usually get the same answer: breastfeed at the same time, tandem feed, hold a baby on each side and put the bottles in their mouths (which is pretty difficult to do!!).  Well, I've tried all of those and I never really got used to any of them.  If I breastfeed both, one usually weans off and starts spitting out milk and crying, so I have to pick him and up burp him, which disrupts the other baby... and then the whole feeding is ruined.

So, what my husband and I thought of was setting up what we like to call the "automatic feeder" hehehe.  We prop each baby up with pillows and blankets and put the bottle in their mouth and prop that up with blankets as well.  Then they just drink away while we watch them until they finish.  We did this a lot until they were a few months old.  Now they move WAY too much for us to do that.  But it helped a lot in the beginning!!

TIP:  If both babies are hungry/crying: feed one baby a little, then get the 2nd baby, feed him, then go back to the 1st baby and feed him the rest.  I do this from time to time whenever both babies are crying and hungry.  Feeding one baby a little in to begin with helps calm him down and satisfies his little belly until I can feed him again, in like 10 or 15 minutes.  

TIP:  Pump some milk into bottles before their feeding and sit it out at room temperature for an hour or two until they are ready to eat.  That way, you're one feeding ahead of them and have bottles ready.  If you breastfeed them, then you at least have a backup for when they're still hungry after nursing (this will happen, trust me).  

I guess it just takes practice and every parent will find their little tricks to feed their babies.  Not all of this will work for you, but it's nice to definitely pump and have some milk on hand!  

Breastfeeding... This Too Shall Pass

One question I've searched on the Internet for and have not found any clear answers is how do you breastfeed two babies exclusively day after day?  Seems like every site I go on, every mom boasts of how wonderful of an experience it is to tandem feed their babies or how easy it is to just pull up the baby and have them latch on whenever.  Sure, it's a lot more convenient than filling up bottles of breast milk or formula and sterilizing all the equipment.  But when you're doing this every 2-3 hours every single day, it's exhausting!

I had no idea what to expect with breastfeeding.  No one ever told me that if I don't breastfeed or pump on a regular basis that I'll soon develop plugged milk ducts and eventually Mastitis.  Well, I found out the hard way and got Mastitis.  It was the worst feeling ever and I felt so sick and was in pain.  Then I went on antibiotics and gave the babies thrush (yeast infection in the mouth), and they gave it to me.  Thrush is terrible and stressed us all out with feeding since they cried all the time and never wanted to eat.  Plus, our babies were premature and didn't have the sucking reflex down like other babies do, so it took about a month and a half to really have them breastfeed without any trouble.  If I stop for a day or two and just pump, I still develop plugged ducts and get sick.

Besides all this, here's a typical day for me:

• Breastfeed one baby
• Change his diaper
• Put him down to sleep or in the swing  
• Breastfeed 2nd baby 
• Change his diaper
• Put him down
• Breast pump (if babies don't completely empty the breast)
• Store the milk
• Wash the bottles
• Hold whichever baby is crying (in our case, the babies like to be held all the time)
• Have 1 hour (2 if we're lucky!!) to regain sanity till we start all over again

The good thing now is that they sleep through the night at least 6 hours.  Unfortunately, I get so excited after they go to sleep that I usually stay up 2 or 3 hours later (yikes!) watching a movie or doing stuff online.  I tell myself every morning that I'm going to go to bed with the babies, but it hasn't happened yet.  Does it get easier???  Many moms say, "this too shall pass," but I guess I need to enjoy each moment while it lasts, because they're only little once.  

The hospital staff was who pushed us so hard to breastfeed.  I'm glad they did, though.  But they told us to stay away from bottles and formula.  Well, when you have two crying babies and not enough milk, you need a 2nd option!  So it's FINE to supplement with bottles, whether it is filled with milk or formula.  As long as you're pumping and breastfeeding on a regular basis, you have to do what works for you.  Breastfeeding isn't for every mom, too.  And I think hospitals need to let new parents know that.  No mom should feel guilty.  If baby is happy, then keep doing what you're doing!

We even did formula a lot in the beginning while I was getting used to breastfeeding/pumping/TWINS.  I usually pump a lot before I go to bed and store it in the freezer for when I don't have enough milk.  From time to time, I'll use formula.  No biggie.  

Max passes out after breastfeeding... so precious!  He always would purse his lips too... don't know what that meant, but it was cute!!

Feeding Max during the 2nd week when my breast milk just came in!  He only fit into preemie clothes then :)

So, it can be stressful feeding two babies, especially if you're relying on breastfeeding exclusively.  

My husband and I always say, "Ugh, I can't wait till they're older and can feed themselves!"  Haha.  

Plus, they always want to be held right now when they're not eating, but soon enough (and too soon, I'm guessing), they'll be doing anything to get away from us and crawl around and explore the world.  

Then they'll be in school and always telling us "Mom, you're embarassing me!!" instead of "Mommy, I love you!"  

After that, they'll be teenagers... and I don't even want to think ahead that far.  That's a whole new chapter that I'll get to before I know it. 

So, as much as I complain and stress out about the hectic schedule that breastfeeding has put me in, I always smile at the end of the day when they're sleeping in the cribs and thank God for giving me two little miracles.